关于“挖墙脚”的专题

上个月同学聚会，陈没有来。她给我打电话，小两口感情受金融风暴影响，着实危机了一把。我“切”了一声，真想一路从电话线切到她家。她的感情与金融危机八竿子打不着，村口那家小百货商店是她开的，却因为部分失业返乡的村民，而着实兴隆了一把。兴隆的关键是这家村星级的小商店垄断了小村的经济，扼住了村民的消费命脉。看看，垄断就是这么牛叉。如果，爱情之村也可以垄断，陈小两口的感情就不会发生危机了，她就有心情来参加我们的同学聚会了。

　　

可是，陈却说：“垄断个毛线啊，老娘的墙脚都被挖了。这么多年的感情还抵不过同村那个狐狸精一招手一扭腰。”陈不明白了，那个狐狸精有啥好啊，长得再好看也就是一村姑模样。我也弄不明白了，陈与她老公都是我同学，当年两个人趴在课桌上手拉手眼对眼，幸福的小模样落在我们纯洁的燃烧着熊熊妒忌之火的眼睛里，不知道被烧焦了多少回。当时的陈说：烧成灰化为烟都是幸福的。可是，现在的陈却说：往事如烟，被风轻轻一吹就散了，啥都没了。说完，幽幽地叹了口气。

　　

我在电话里直叹她不争气：你当年能掐出水来的小狐骚样呢，风干了？重整雌风，把老公抢回来啊！
陈沉默不语。良久，突然撕心裂肺地哭起来：“他说他和我的差距越来越大，没有共同语言，不可能再生活下去了。他和她都住在一起了。”
我哀其不幸怒其不争：他们这是非法同居。你是他的合法妻子，理应通过正当的合法的途径捍卫自己的权利幸福和尊严！
如果不是想起古训：宁拆一座庙，不破一桩婚。我真想嗷一嗓子：告他，让奸夫淫妇把牢底坐穿去。
陈在电话那端哭哭啼啼半宿。我柔肠百转了半宿。爱情真这么脆弱了么，敌不过时间敌不过岁月的风霜？

　　
一个星期后，陈返乡，回娘家顺道来看看我。见到陈，我一哆嗦，差点没蹦出一句：大姐，请问您找谁？
几年没见，陈真是印证了那句话：岁月催人老啊。令我喷血的是，陈的衣着，那简直是里程碑式的纪念，一直停留在几年前阶段式的标志上。
陈噼里啪啦地诉着苦，，我一声不吭，听着，沉默着，皱着眉忍受着陈毫无营养的抱怨，因为我知道，倾诉是一种减压。面前茶杯里的茶水续了一杯又一杯，我上了一趟又一趟洗手间，之后，我拉起一脸茫然的陈直奔本城最繁华的商业街。
当陈卡里的钱变成面前一大堆的服装和化装品之后，陈坐在梦工厂理发店里，绯红着脸，不敢相信镜中人便是自己。
我把焕然一新陈送上了车，将一瓶香水递给陈，说：不要再沉迷于麻将了。爱自己充实自己提升自己的魅力值才是正道。
最后，我咬咬牙，把老脸一豁，对陈说：女人，请一定记得，在做一个贤惠的妻子打理家务时，还得学学你一直讨厌的狐狸精。不贤惠和过于贤惠，都有可能导致别人挖你的墙脚，一腿插进你的爱情婚姻里。所以，你得多花点时间陪你老公玩玩情趣谈谈人生，他才不会去和人家摩擦下半身。
陈愣了一下，脸色从茫然到若有所思。

一个月后，陈给我打来电话，陈说，这段时间她好好反思了自己，被人家挖了墙脚，其实自己有很大的责任。结婚这么多年，她变得没有了女人样，不注重穿着打扮，说话也粗里粗气的，小商店、麻将桌、家三点一线，和老公从来没有精神上的沟通交流，就连夫妻之间的性事也变得例行公事索然无味。
陈决定先改变自己，希望丈夫能看到自己的努力和改变而回心转意，她相信，她和丈夫之间的感情是好的，只是因为双方没有珍惜呵护，才会被岁月的风霜打成了蔫茄子。
当从精神到外表都焕然一新的陈，淡淡地笑着，牵着孩子站在她老公面前时，老公原本将迈向情人家里的脚步收了回来，犹豫了一番之后，抱起了孩子，和陈一道走回了家。

陈在电话里喜气洋洋地说：老公和那女的分手，那女的狮子大开口要了老公好大一笔钱。心疼！老娘的血汗钱啊，白白便宜了那狐狸精。不过这样也好，这一下，老公的心完完全全回来了。现在的家里多了好久不曾有过的欢声笑语了。这才是一个家啊。
听着陈幸福的叹息，我说，女人，恭喜你！看来这次挖墙脚是坏事变好事了。瞧你这小脸都幸福像花儿一样绽放了。要珍惜哦，不能掉以轻心，任重而道远，呵呵。


钱钟书先生把婚姻比作围城。有了爱的围城好比有了灵魂的人，具备了温度和吸引力。普通的房子有了裂痕，一眼便可以看得到，修一修很简单，可是爱之围城，不用心是发现不了裂痕的，日复一日的放任累积，有朝一日会导致天塌地陷。

即便围城坚固，也不能掉以轻心，“早已森严壁垒，更加众志成城”，这是毛主席对付挖墙脚经典理论。人心是最脆弱的东西，人心衍生出来的感情更加脆弱，只有一直用心浇灌，才能牢牢扎根，风雨不倒。


陈对我说：帮我把我这个故事写出来吧，给更多的女人一个警醒。
我应了。可是懒，一直拖着。今天，刚好社区有一个关于“挖墙脚”的专题。
于是，写下。

　　
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Are we alone in the universe and, more importantly, will the aliens like the spicy Sichuan food?
If there are beings on other planets, the Chinese people have thrown open their doors to them with traditional hospitality in a project to communicate with extra-terrestrials.
"Hello from Earth" was launched by the Australian science magazine COSMOS for Australia's National Science Week from August 15 to 23.
By Saturday, it had collected more than 12,200 messages from around the world on www.hellofromearth.net to be transmitted to the distant planet Gliese 581d.
"Yoo-hoo! Anybody here? Oh, I come from a blue paradise, and I want to make friends with you! Please bring your science to us, and I will treat you with Sichuan food," wrote "Kang Xia" from southwest China's Sichuan Province.
But if that offer proves too spicy, at least two Qingdao residents were offering to treat them to the city's most famous export, Tsingtao beer.
"Hello, friends. We are no longer lonely. If you can let us meet, we will welcome you! I will ask you to drink Tsingtao," wrote "Zehao Liang".
The website stipulates that the messages must be in English, leading some to wonder if the aliens might be more comfortable with Chinese.
"Who said aliens must read in English?" asked "yangbo", of Yibin City, Sichuan Province. "They may be more familiar with Chinese."
Others resorted to pinyin. "Huan ying lai di qiu! (Welcome to Earth!) One world one dream," wrote "Ryan Kwan", from Foshan, Guangdong Province.
"If you come to Earth I 'qing ni chi fan'(treat you a meal)," said "huangchen", of Zhejiang Province, while "mingxue han" invited the aliens to a "Spring Festival party."
On the COSMOS website, an "unscientific poll" of readers, asking "Will our messages to Gliese 581d get a response?", almost half the respondents answered "no".
Gliese 581d is about eight times heavier than Earth and orbits the low-mass red dwarf star Gliese 581 with three sister planets. It is about 20.3 light years (194 trillion km) from Earth, in the constellation Libra.
It was discovered in April 2007 and is believed to be the first serious "water world" candidate, meaning it might support life.
"So far, our knowledge of Gliese 581d is sketchy. What the planet looks like may have to wait until technology improves. Or until someone calls back," says the website.
The U.S. National Aeronautics and Space Administration (NASA) will transmit the messages to Gliese 581d using the Canberra Deep Space Communication Complex in Tidbinbilla.
It will take around 20 years for the signal to reach the solar system of Gliese 581, meaning we will have to wait at least 40 years for a reply.
Australian Science Minister Kim Carr wrote the first message, saying, "These messages express our people's dreams for the future. We want to share those dreams with you."
Messages will be accepted until 7 a.m. GMT, on Aug. 24.
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