【群处守住嘴，独处守住心】

<font size="4">&nbsp;第一句<strong><span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)">&nbsp;</span></strong></font><span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)"><font size="4">群处守住嘴。是要人在和别人相处的时候，注意自己的语言。<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;有的人和别人相处夸夸其谈，显得自己眼界开阔，知识渊博，积淀<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;丰厚，岂不知他给人的感觉是轻薄、肤浅和狂妄。有的人和别人相<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;处，只管自己嘴上痛快，想说什么就说什么，毫无遮拦，毫无回避，<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;往往无意中伤害他人。祸从口出，语言给自己带来了不必要的麻烦<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;还不知道为什么，真是可悲。人常说沉默是金，我想也可能是受伤<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;之后的经验总结吧</font></span><span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)">。</span>

<span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)"><font size="4">沉默是金是一句极其朴素的语言，却蕴含着极其耐人寻味的道理</font></span><span style="TEXT-ALIGN: left; COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)">&nbsp;</span>
<p style="ADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN-TOP: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 10px; PADDING-TOP: 0px" align="left"><font size="4" face="微软雅黑"><span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)">&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;首先，语言上的沉默并不代表思维上的停止。深邃的思想往往来源<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 于貌似沉默的思索过程。有的人不待对方把问题说清，就大谈自己<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;的见解和主张，结果语言条理不清晰，逻辑不严密，所谈非所问，<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;牛头不对马嘴。而暂时沉默的人，在沉默中积极思考，在听取中有<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 效取舍，结果往往能抓住要害，点石成金，足见真知灼见，令人感<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;佩折服。</span></font></p>

其次，语言上的沉默并不代表思想上的空虚。沉默是一个蓄势等待<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;的过程，大地的沉默是在孕育着金秋的收获，雄鹰的沉默是在等待<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;着振翅的高飞，严冬的沉默是在集结着姹紫嫣红的春天。所以，沉<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 默是为了更加有力的爆发。我们经常为那些成功者鼓掌喝彩，却不<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;知他们在此之前那段艰辛的努力和甘于沉寂，甘于缄默的精神，<span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)">正<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;所谓大器晚成，大音希声，不鸣则已，一鸣惊人是也。</span><span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)">沉默是一种<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;品质，是一种修养，要的是对自己的苛刻约束，要的是对自己意志<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; <br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;的严峻考验，要的是不卑不亢的坚持和忍耐。</span>

<font size="4">第二句</font><span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)"><font size="4">&nbsp;独处守住心。古人云，君子之心，昭之天下，不可使人不<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;知。即君子要坦坦荡荡。喧嚣世尘，势利纷争，我们生活在这个世<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 界上，难免要遇到好多不顺心，不顺意的事情。如何处理好这些事<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;情恰恰是对一个人进德修行情况的严峻考验。所以，我们常常需要<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;一个人静下心来细细思考和回味这些拂心之事。</font></span>

<font size="4">所以，每每当夜深人静的时候，独自内观其心，告诉你自己，你究<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;竟是一个怎样的人，这个时候你就会发现自己的真面目就会在你眼<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;前浮现，这样经常的反思，你就会觉得真我的显现让平时欺瞒你的<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;假我原形毕露，无处可逃，于此中你会羞愧难当，会真正善待灵魂<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 深处的真我。这样形成一种习惯，你的境界就会得到不断的提高。<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;所以，论语中说，吾日三省吾身是也。<br/><span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)">&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;</span></font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 微软雅黑; COLOR: rgb(0,0,0); FONT-SIZE: large">&nbsp;一个人独处的时候，常常想着别人对自己的好处，你就会善待对</span>
<p style="ADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN-TOP: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 10px; COLOR: rgb(51,51,51); PADDING-TOP: 0px" align="left"><font color="#000080" size="4" face="微软雅黑"><span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)">&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;你好的每一个人。那么你就愿意为他付出，你就愿意与他进一步<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;接好，你就会使这种友谊不断巩固和发展。</span></font></p>

<span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)"><font size="4">一个人独处的时候，常常想着自己对别人的好处，你就会让自己的<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 自我优越感不断膨胀，从而失去真我的本性。当他因为一时一事做<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;得对你不利的时候，你就会感到很委屈，感到心里很不舒服，就会<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;找一个理由有力的惩治一下他，这不利于你的自我人格的完善，也<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;不利于你的人际关系的和谐处理。</font></span>

<span style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0)"><font size="4">&nbsp;所以，当你遇到快乐的时候，你要记得克制，因为得意忘形，忘形<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 伤本，忘本失性。当你遇到困惑的时候，你不要忘记退一步思想，<br/>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 因为退一步海阔天高。</font></span>